August 5th, 2003

such an asshole!

Letter to Paul (a new aquaintence) from Me this morning...referencing getting stood up last week.

BTW: Im not sure if you forgot, or what, but you completely stood me up last Wed. We chatted on Tuesday, remember..and you said you were busy on Thursday. So I said..what about tomorrow. you said sure and you get home around 7, and would call when you got in. So here I am waiting for your phone call, starving my ass off until 9pm, and you never called. and never bothered to email or anything to apologize. you can imagine i had decided that that was an obvious sign to bugger off. didnt think you were like that. im sorta hurt, you know?

Letter from Paul to Me this afternoon:

Apologize for wednesday, but unfortunately I don't have the kind of mentality that you about making definite plans. If there was a reason I didn't call you on Wednesday, it was because I had other commitments. Its the reason I never make definite plans with someone until the day of. Even then I have to bail sometimes. My life revolves around my work right now, and unlike you I don't have the power nor the ability to dictate my freetime. I didn't mean to hurt you, but I think its childish for you to say that. Hopefully you'll understand where I'm coming from, otherwise I guess this is probably a goodbye.

Letter back to Paul from Me:

Hi Paul:

This definately is goodbye. Your self-centeredness and lack of responsibility towards a person's time is competely intolerable. It's not about definate plans; if you are late or can't make an obligation, it's polite to contact the person and let them know you can't make it. Reason: my life doesn't revolve around yours. I'd have been happy enough to call someone else. I'm sorry you feel it's childish for a person to express the feelings of being hurt by another's lack of respect. I didn't stay up all night crying my eyes out. Not to worry. But it's not the best feeling in the world to be competely forgotten.

Best of luck to you. Enjoy that job of yours.