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I returned the Banana Republic bag today. James didn't like it. I thought it was great: smooth/fuzzy tan-colored suede, smelling of leather and adventure. A messenger bag. I cried when he told me he didn't like it. I looked long and hard for it. The bag was the largest present to him from me under the tree. I don't mind now, of course. I'll use the money for something else. It's funny. If I ever told my parents that I didn't like one of their gifts, I would be "ungrateful", "unthankful", and "selfish". James has no problems with speaking his mind on such thing. I guess that's why my parents don't really know me. I never tell them when they are off-track.

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spiral
Jan. 8th, 2003 11:42 am (UTC)
i was raised that way too. i hate to sound spoiled, but if i told my parents what was on my mind i would have told them that pretty much every xmas present they got me this year was a flop. heh. i guess there is a happy medium of politeness and being open.
lisagoddess
Jan. 12th, 2003 08:53 am (UTC)
we left the name. King Timothy. Although we do call him fuck head and gray and mr wiggles.
haha.
just read this posting. going to be lazy today. but will call ya soon. im trying to figure out my weeeeek.
point51
Jan. 9th, 2003 04:09 am (UTC)
its soo sad.. and I wish she would just go and see a shrink... but my mom still cries if I tell her that I want to take something back... Eventhough, all year, I ask her-- "Mom, please, if you're going to buy me clothes, TAKE ME SHOPPING!" But she says no, and buys god aweful shit that I just can't even pretend to like... I love her, but damn, I'm almost 28 years old! you'd think I would be old enough to pick out my own clothes....
lisagoddess
Jan. 12th, 2003 08:56 am (UTC)
yeah, mine too. my gifts were, uh..not quite me, but I understand that my mom put lots and time and effort into the arty-crafty things she made me...so I just cannot be mean. I know there is a lot of love in the dried purpleand white pansies glued to a bright blue fabric background.

(Anonymous)
Jan. 9th, 2003 05:28 am (UTC)
presents
Men and women are different when it comes to receiving gifts.
Mostly it's best to ask him, up front, exactly what he wants, and get exactly he wants, right down to the brand name and model number, no substitutes. It's nice to be surprised with the perfect gift, but almost impossible to accomplish.
legolas
Jan. 9th, 2003 03:08 pm (UTC)
Re: presents
I actually like it better the way Lisa and J did it in this case... Get someone a surprise, if it's good then good for both of you and if it isn't all that, let them go and exchange it for what they really want. Although my girlfriend didn't like it at first either when I did this christmas, she didn't mind anymore after sleeping over it... And no money lost to useless things (and a tiny bit of environment saved on not producing more unused stuff? I'm getting off topic here ;-)

Granted it's not as much fun as being told you have found the perfect gift, but who really believes they've found the perfectly right thing every year anyway?
r_lu
Jan. 9th, 2003 04:18 pm (UTC)
I rather the person tell me they don't like something. Then I haven't wasted my money on something they don't even like. I get upset too, but only because I wanted them to like it as much as I did, but I'm not angry. It's natural to feel upset.
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lisagoddess
Jan. 12th, 2003 08:52 am (UTC)
Re: bag bag bag.
you, you stay away from MY frogs and lizards. They are not for eating!! :)
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