i think this is actually the answer! ;)

I just wanted to make mention that the financial situation of a person matters very little to me in terms of a relationship. I don't want to feed and house someone, or pay off their debts, but I could care less whether they were a doctor, Starbucks barista, fetish shop clerk, Bombay Company sales associate, neon sign maker, or singer for a band that will never make enough for retirement. (Yes, I just named off D.'s occupation and the jobs of choice for some people I cared about at one time or another.) I can take care of myself and I have never and will never look for a partner based on financial merit.

As for telling someone you have a crush on them...I think you know in an evening if a person is someone you are interested in getting to know more, and if the spark of attaction is there. So, yes, I can rightly have a crush on someone after THREE dates. And yes, I will mention it. Im not asking for a ring. I'm telling someone that I'm interested in seeing them again. I'm opening up, but I want to see if the other person wants to open up. If that makes me dumpable, then I'm obviously not the right girl for the other person at that point in their life. I'm 25, but I've definately gotten around. In good ways, and in exactly the way you might have thought when you read that sentence. I am extremely proud and somewhat amazed that I'm not jaded and cynical. I dont think all men are assholes. Or women for that matter. Most people out there are not right for me, but I won't stop being who I am and hide attraction because it's the status quo, or something.

haha. :) the girl didnt work out. she was a smoker and ...well, im not into the ashtray kissing thing. cute otherwise, but she really was into movies and I just don't get people who go see EVERY movie and can quote from them and stuff. Whatever. That little spark wasnt there.