more on the hookups

my reply to the email i received, below..so scroll down and read then come up here..
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hee hee. i laughed out loud.
I think confusion is common among women. we are the ones that are usually the "chased" so its up to us to sorta decide if we want it or not. theres all this pressure to hook up...and then all the pressure not to hook up. then there's the "how will he see me?" questions...

i can answer for myself that im a rad girl, and if i wanna get it on, then thats that..
but i sometimes worry that the guy im getting it on with gets all the girls..so then no matter how much i want him, i dont want him to have me too...

its all so complicated.

--- AM wrote:
>
> Lisa,
>
> Your post helped me figure out a lingering puzzle.
> That "I'm fine with
> just cuddling" line has rarely worked for me.
> (Occasionally, I even
> believed what I was saying.) The response was
> typically excuses or general
> annoyance. Never did a girl say, "I'm confused and
> that would confuse me
> even more." Later, I sometimes got the real story.
> But, if she had
> expressed confusion, I would have taken the
> opportunity to try think for
> her. Yes. Men are pigs. Second thought, that is
> probably an insult to pigs.
>
> That realization deserves a "well, duh." Hey. I
> may be slow, but I do learn.
>
> xo
> A